The journey of parenting is like a roller coaster ride. Sometimes there are moments of joys and pleasure and sometimes the process seems tough and painful. The whole life of parents revolves around nurturing and protecting their kids. Nevertheless, the kids of this generation are impatient, frustrated and angry.
It has become a common scenario of every other family that kids are making their parents crazy with their demands and tantrums. Despite of all the luxuries and love, kids complain and express their anger over one or the other thing.
Anger in itself is not a bad emotion. Like happiness, sorrow and pain, anger is a natural human feeling. It is actually the way of expression which makes the situation worse. The kids, in some cases, hurt themselves when they have a fight with their siblings. In some cases, they hit their friends and bite them at slightest provocation. Some kids in their teens even verbally abuse their parents, destroy things and leave their homes in anger.
As said before, anger is a normal feeling but if expressed in an abusive and violent manner, can lead to some undesirable and unexpected outcomes as well. The uncontrolled anger in kids can lead to:
• Growing complaints from neighbors and teachers
• Fights with siblings and friends
• Embarrassment to the parents in public
• Social boycott and rejection of the angry kid
• Injury to the kid or others
• Incapacity to control and manage anger as adult
• Ruined relations with parents and family.
These awful outcomes are enough to give sleepless nights to parents. Moreover, with such behavioral problem, the kid will not be able to lead a healthy and happy life in society.
Who is responsible for the growing anger in kids? No, kids are not so much responsible. It is the environment in which they live and which teaches them to magnify their anger and explode like a bomb. Most of the times, the kids learn to express their anger in a wrong way from their parents. They observe minutely to the reactions of the parents in adverse and unfavorable situations. They see that parents yell, scream, throw things, use wrong language, slam doors and sometimes fight bitterly among themselves when their expectations are not met.
The parents are role models of their kids. And their behavior sets the pattern in which the kids express their anger. The kids learn their initial anger management tips from their parents and family! Therefore, it is upon the parents and family to teach kids to handle anger in an amicable way.