When parents allow one child to be abusive towards their brothers and sisters, especially when those children have disabilities, they are condoning the abuse, and giving that child permission to continue to abuse their siblings forever. This is something that occurred in our family, when a parent favors one child over the others, the the parent is giving that child permission to abuse their siblings. This is an important story to tell, because until society recognizes it as a problem, nothing will change.
You are seeing the results of sibling bullying in schools today, due to the problems in the home. There needs to be more research done on this problem, and parents need to be held responsible for their children's behavior, both at home and in the classroom. The story I will tell will show you just how when a child is allowed to bully their own family members, they become more emboldened to abuse others outside of the home.
When Joan was a child, she didn't have many friends, because she was dictatorial. It was only after she entered college, that she learned to have friends outside of the home. But because she was never disciplined for abusing her sisters, her abuse of them has grown tenfold.
When a child craves attention, they learn to act out or become self abusive to get the attention they crave so badly. When a child has no activities to participate in outside of the home, then they will talk about the past. When the parent doesn't want to hear it, they can something that's considered abuse, like throwing boiling water on them. When the parent is doing by their actions is demonstrating to the child that bullies permission to continue to abuse their siblings.
When a parent abuses their children in this fashion, why would they then expect the child to take care of them in their old age? The parent has demonstrated to their children by their behavior this how they expect for the children to treat them, then when their children treat the parent the way the parent treated them, the parent want to cry elderly abuse. This is truly a double standard.
One can't expect to abuse without being abused themselves. How you treat you children is how you tell them you expect them to treat you. Unless the family is willing to seek family therapy, they will never have a healthy relationship and when that child becomes an adult, they will choose a mate who will abuse them because that is what's familiar to them. When someone comes a home which was a hostile environment, then they will create a similar environment in their home as an adult because that's what's familiar to them and where they feel comfortable.
Are you willing to break the cycle of abuse? Do you want to learn ow to communicate effectively and have healthy relationships both personally and in the workplace? Without understanding why you lack good communication skills or what a healthy relationship is, this can be one reason someone has trouble holding a job or building a successful business.
I have an AAS in mental health, BS in psychology, and credits towards an MS in rehabilitation counseling. I attended Toastmasters where I took part in their leadership training by participating in different roles to run the meeting plus I achieved both the CTM and ATM certifications. I attended NSA-GA chapter meetings and participated in their mentoring program. I attended the American seminar leaders Association University where I received the CSL certification. I participated in the storesonline Internet marketing program and learn how to optimize SEO. I am an Inscape publishing distributor and use their assessment profiles to work with clients on communication, working in teams, leadership, listening, time management, stress management, diversity, sales and management training. My company is career performance Institute and I offer home study programs, teleseminars, boot camp's or mentoring programs, life and career coaching. I have a radio show on the Internet known as live without limits where we discuss about business issues and disability issues.
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